The Oppressor's Greatest Fear

 One of the greatest fears of the alpha in a codependent relationship is for their partner to become independent and successful because their control over their partner is diminished. 

We tend to think of a codependent relationship as one between a narcissist/sociopath, and an over-accommodating or needy partner, but this form of toxicity extends beyond a personal relationship. A dysfunctional alliance can also be on a macro level - such as between an oligarchy and its citizenry; an employer and employees; landlord and tenants; or a corporatocracy and independent entrepreneurs or freelancers. 

Anytime the balance between the controller and the controlled tips in favor of their reciprocal dependent, they must take drastic measures to regain control and oppression. In a personal relationship, it may take the form of physical violence, threats, emotional abuse (which includes gaslighting), isolation and restricting essential resources. In instances where the underdog discovers that he or she can be independent or successful, it is almost always necessary to change the "rules" so that the alpha regains complete control and then it becomes even more difficult for the oppressed to prosper or escape subjugation. The scenario is almost identical where the relationship is on a macro level. 

Victims of oppression and abuse may not even recognize their role in a codependent relationship. It seems "normal" to them. Even when acknowledged, they may continue to rely on their oppressors and keep supporting or defending their empire because they feel "secure" in that relationship or don't feel like there are any other options. In many instances, there are no other options though. A healthy relationship (whether it is personal or on a macro level, as I've described) is a complementary partnership where every aspect is mutually beneficial and assets are shared - not where leftover crumbs are used as bargaining chips. 

Sometimes, all that is needed to level the playing field is for the truth to shine bright enough to penetrate the veil of illusion so that those who are oppressed can see a clear path for egress and to recognize their own potential - understanding that their own worth, their skills, their talents and their voice are every bit as valid as those of the elites and the powerful.